Love and Sex advice from our resident expert

Dear Jones, my fiancé and I have agreed to know everything about each other before we tie the knot.  We both know that we’re not each other’s firsts and he thinks we should admit the number of people we’ve slept with… Do I really have to?

Well that really depends on how many partners you have had.  Even if your fiancé says he is very liberal and can understand, I don’t think any man would like to know that his wife-to-be may have slept with the entire football team. A little white lie won’t hurt even if you are supposed to start your new life on a clean slate.

Jonesy! My fiancé thinks we should abstain from lovemaking until we get married… But that’s like six months from now! I really want to adhere to her request but I just want to be with her always, how do I control myself?

Is she really serious?  I suggest you try and talk her out of it and suggest a 30-day abstinence instead.

I really, really love my fiancé and we’re getting married in three months. About six years ago, my hubby-to-be had one infidelity and now I’m freaking out that it might happen again. I know he loves me but how do I get over it?

It’s a bit too late to question that now sweetheart because you should have addressed that issue and resolved it six years ago.  If he’s been a good boy ever since then you shouldn’t have to worry.  Now if you notice that he reeks of cheap perfume after coming home late from the office, that’s a different story.

Hi Jones, I want to have a baby right away but my fiancé thinks we should wait and enjoy being married for a while. I only have one ovary and I’m scared that we’ll have a hard time conceiving. It’s something we consistently fight over, how do we meet in the middle?

You just answered your own question because you need to meet somewhere in the middle. I personally believe that each couple should spend some time as a married couple before settling down and starting a family.  How much time really depends on both of you.  Some couples may decide to have a year or two to themselves before starting a family.  Others may take less time.  Again, talk to your fiancée and I’m sure you’ll arrive at a compromise.

Hey Mr. Jones, my husband to-be is a virgin and knows that I’m not… How do I spice things up on our wedding night or honeymoon without making him feel uncomfortable?

You will make him feel uncomfortable?  I don’t think you need to pretend to be a porn star on your wedding night especially since it’s going to be your first time together.  Revel in the situation that he is the experienced ‘one’.  The anticipation will provide all the spice you need.

Jones, I want to surprise my husband-to-be on our honeymoon with something a little raunchier, something that is totally out of my personality… Got any suggestions? I’m usually quite shy about this stuff…

You don’t have to turn yourself into some sort of dungeon dominatrix to spice up your love life.  Think about incorporating the simple stuff.  Try wearing new lingerie, experimenting with new positions or even including a toy.  A little variety will go a long way in keeping your love life fresh.